Are You in Denial?

When faced with a difficult situation or event or a mental or physical health issue is is quite common to enter a state of denial, where you maintain to yourself or others that the problem does not really exist or will go away soon. Generally this is not helpful. It means you are less prepared for dealing with the difficulties that will probably, perhaps certainly, arise from the problem, and being dishonest with yourself or others creates its own stresses.

If you can, it is usually better to accept that the problem exists and then to work out realistically:

• What you can do to help manage the problem
• What limits there are to what you can do
• What support you can get to manage the problem and where from.

There is no shame in accepting that you have a problem, whether it is of your own making or not, and then seeking to deal with it realistically. It saves the stress of pretending there is nothing wrong and improves your chances of finding a practical way forward even if there is no magical solution available.

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