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Wednesday, 16 May 2018

Looking for Positives

When something goes wrong, whether because of your own actions or because of events entirely beyond your control, it can be easy to see only the negatives and to feel that nothing can help or will get better or that what has been done cannot be reversed.  It is true that you cannot go back and change what has happened (though in some situations you can remedy it). However, even the darkest situation such as the death of a loved one or a dire change in your personal or relationship circumstances can bring with it positives. These can take many forms such as the impetus to make positive changes in your life or relationships or a new or deeper perspective on a situation or a chain of events set in motion which has unexpected upsides.

If you find yourself in a difficult situation, it is right to recognise accurately the difficulties that are presented but it is equally important to acknowledge or find genuine positives arising from the situation, as this will help you to maintain balance and move forward. So if you can, when you are experiencing difficulties, look for and remind yourself of any of the positives that co-exist or have arisen from the situation and use them to build your resilience and future.

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Thursday, 10 May 2018

Working Through a Decision

Today's blog post contains a life coaching exercise taking you through steps towards making a decision if there is something you are thinking you might or should do but haven't yet done anything about it. To find out more click on the link below:

Making a Decision

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Thursday, 3 May 2018

What is Presenteeism?

The BBC recently ran a feature on Presenteeism. Presenteeism is when you come in to work more than you need to - for example working longer hours or coming in even when you are sick. It can have significant consequences, such as

  • Ill health
  • Poorer quality of life
  • Reduced productivity at work.
 If you find that you are working much more than required then ask you yourself the following 3 questions:

1. Do I really need to work this many hours? Would the consequences of me working fewer hours really be so detrimental? Specify what you think are the problems that might be caused and the benefits that might ensue for you if you worked fewer hours . Which are more significant - the problems or the benefits?

2. What are my options? What ways are there for you to manage your time so that you work more reasonable hours? Is it possible for you to explore any of the options further or to try them out for a short time to see if they improve your situation?

3. What am I going to do? Set yourself a specific action or actions to try out so that you can see what difference(s) it makes to your wellbeing and quality of life. Possible actions might include consciously cutting down on the excess hours you spend working or exploring alternative jobs or roles or setting actions to help you prioritise your health. Pick an option which is likely to give you as good a balance as you can achieve between ensuring that your basic needs are met and improving your quality of life.

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Wednesday, 25 April 2018

Free Meditation Resources

Meditation can help you to feel calmer, think more clearly and act more productively. For information about where you can find helpful meditations to try, click on the link below:

Free Guided Meditations

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Wednesday, 4 April 2018

Alleviating Boredom and Stress

Today's blog post contains some tips for making your life more enjoyable if it seems to be dominated by boredom or stress. To find out more click on the link below:

Enjoying Life

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