Over the past two weeks on my blog, I have been discussing the self-help tips in the article Ten Easy Steps to Happier Living by Mark Williamson and Vanessa King. Their penultimate tip is Be comfortable with who you are. Their rationale for saying this is that learning to accept yourself and be kinder to yourself when things go wrong increases your enjoyment of life.
I partly agree with this but isn't it all about balance? If you are overly self-critical or unduly harsh on yourself, yes try to balance that out using some of the techniques that Williamson and King suggest, such as asking a trusted friend what they think your strengths are or seeing your mistakes as opportunities to learn rather than beating yourself up about them.
On the other hand a certain level of self-criticism can be productive. It can help you to make positive changes or to apologise appropriately and if you are completely comfortable with yourself then you are probably suffering from self-delusion or a gigantic ego!
So I would say, try to keep your self-criticism balanced and not too harsh if you can, but also remember it's OK not to be completely comfortable with yourself.
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